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Rachel's avatar

@allyson. I think you would like this

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allyson.'s avatar

i love you forever.

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Rachel's avatar

whew! the anxiety around men and presuming that's just being nervous and taking it as interest is SO REAL. once I got to uni, every single time I sensed a guy was attracted to me it would activate my flight response and yet it took me another 5 years to realize I wasn't actually attracted to men because honestly I do find men aesthetically attractive fairly frequently. and it is terrifying to admit you aren't interested in men when we are taught to filter our desires through them

this is such a good essay. thank you for sharing. sending love <3

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amissa's avatar

Rachel, thank you so much for reading and responding in a way that makes me feel so seen and validated! 🥹 Isn't it wild, how it all makes sense once that anxiety piece becomes clear? And the difference you name between noticing that a man is attractive and actually being attracted to him, yes, also a game changer!!! I'm really grateful to know that this piece resonated for you. Much love 💖

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